Have you ever found yourself driving alone at night, exhausted and overwhelmed by the demands of life, when suddenly an irresistible desire for chocolate takes over? You head straight to the nearest shop, disregarding consequences and the commitment to a recent diet. This scenario is familiar to many, prompting questions like, “Why do I do this?” and “How do I stop?”
As someone who helps unravel the mysteries of our actions, I want to guide you in understanding what you truly want when you find yourself unable to resist the allure of chocolate.
The first question to ask is, “What about chocolate do you want so much?” Answers typically include the sweetness, texture, and the sensory pleasure of having it in your mouth.
Now, consider the next question: “When you have it in your mouth, how do you feel?” Responses often revolve around feelings like peace, quietness, love, and calm (at least until the overindulgence starts making you feel sick).
It becomes apparent that what you truly seek from chocolate is a feeling of peace, love, and quietness. It’s not about suggesting you stop indulging but rather understanding the underlying pull towards it.
What if you gave yourself permission, even for a brief moment, to desire those feelings—calm, love, quietness, and peace—without relying on food as a substitute?
The discomfort that arises from this thought is understandable. What if you allow yourself to desire these things and don’t attain them? It can feel safer to turn to a substitute like chocolate.
Here’s the revelation about desire: it’s the desire itself, not its fulfillment, that nourishes you. Often, we convince ourselves that we’re not worthy of our desires—particularly peace, love, and quietness.
Our hearts yearn for something genuine, yet we often ignore, reject, or substitute our true desires with chocolate. Following your desires for what you truly want brings you closer to your authentic self. Desires become the pathway to your heart’s true yearnings.
Listening to yourself without judgment or dismissal allows you to be at peace with who you are. As you practice acknowledging and embracing your desires, the need to use chocolate as a substitute begins to fade away. Ultimately, this journey leads to a deeper connection with yourself, returning to the essence of who you are.
