Comment by a Student:
“I’ve been punishing myself with food.”
My Reply:
I hear you. Your honesty is a powerful step, acknowledging the complexity of your relationship with food. Know that you are not alone; many navigate similar struggles. It’s crucial to approach this journey with kindness and curiosity.
Food as a Life Raft:
Understand that your current relationship with food serves a purpose. In moments of turbulence, it might feel like a life raft, offering solace and distraction. Recognize this without judgment; your coping mechanism is a testament to your resilience.
The Power of Kindness and Curiosity:
Now, more than ever, kindness and curiosity become your allies. Watch how the abuse with food might be a distraction, preventing you from addressing the deeper emotions within.
Embracing Emotional Bruises:
Imagine, as a child, being encouraged to express feelings openly. Your emotions are like bruises—acknowledge them. Share with yourself, “How does the feeling feel in your body? How does your belly feel? And your chest?” Approach your emotions with the tenderness of a caring parent.
Attention Heals:
All feelings need attention; they need to be heard. Running from them often manifests as unkind eating habits. Instead, turn towards your emotions. Let them speak, and observe the transformative power of acknowledgment.
Challenging Mental Stories:
Mental suffering often arises from the stories we tell ourselves. Challenge these narratives. Byron Katie’s work can be a guiding light. Ask yourself, “Is it true that I can’t be at peace right now?” Drop judgment and shame, if only for a moment, regardless of how you eat.
Building a Beautiful Life:
Remember, a beautiful life cannot be constructed from self-hatred. It flourishes through acceptance, kindness, compassion, and love. As you embark on this journey, embrace the opportunity to nourish not just your body but your soul.
In this space of self-discovery, may you find the strength to rewrite your narrative with compassion and build a life rooted in love. 🙏
